FEATURE STORY: TRAIT OF THE WEEK Contributed by Guest Author and
Certified Handwriting Analyst David Riffey, St. Petersburg, FL
Are you diplomatic, self-conscious or just shy?
While studying for Handwriting Analysis Certification, I did a written analysis for a young woman at work. After reading it, she declared, "This is so me, how can you come up with all this?" I told her that I look for handwriting traits that are known to relate to particular personality characteristics. In learning these traits, it helps to understand how the mind forms them and reveals them in our writing. An easily understood trait is the height of the t-bar and it's relation to self-esteem or self-confidence. The height at which the t-bar crosses the t-stem is a measure of the degree of self esteem we have for ourselves.
The higher the t-bar the more we like ourselves, and generally we will do better in life than someone with a low self-esteem. The lower the t-bar, the lower our self image and the more likely we will live with, and stay in, unhappy or unhealthy situations. The person with a low t-bar has a fear of change. Why risk change if you think you can't do better? Okay, these traits are pretty clear, aren't they? The height of the t-bar correlates to the level of self-esteem.
Others are not so obvious. You'll find two traits shown in the m's and n's which may seem unrelated: remember, opposite strokes do not always mean opposite personality traits. (Low t-bars vs. high t-bars have opposite meanings in relation to self-esteem. However, the opposite strokes in the m- and n-humps do not have opposite meanings on first look.)
Self-Consciousness vs. Diplomacy.
Self-consciousness is a fear of ridicule by others. Diplomacy is dealing with people so as not to offend them.
Self-consciousness is indicated by humps that grow progressively bigger in a stair-step fashion as the letter is written toward the right. Diplomacy is written in lowering stair steps going to the right. How do these relate? Directionally speaking, we know that anything in handwriting that is going to the left is related to the self or to the past. Strokes going to the right represent the future or others.
Self-consciousness
Diplomacy
self <-------------------> others
As you look at these traits, realize that the self-conscious trait slopes down to the left. Diplomacy slopes down to the right. Diplomacy is the awareness of others. Self-consciousness is the OVER awareness of what others might be thinking. Thinking about these traits in this way allows you to understand that they carry essentially the same principle. The direction of the stroke, whether towards ourselves or toward others, is the difference.
Self-conscious people will frequently exhibit shyness in crowds, a reluctance to be in the spotlight, or fear of talking to strangers. Traits such as "pride" and "sensitivity to criticism" will increase the trait of self-consciousness. It seems heavy doses of alcoholic beverages reduce self-consciousness. (ha.ha.)
Remember to not confuse self-consciousness (the fear of being told no or fear of ridicule ) with the serious fear of "Fear of Criticism" , which is a reaction to being criticized. They are both fears, but differenct in many ways.
Remember that just one stroke doesn't make a trait 100% accurate. Someone that has the ability to be diplomatic might never show it if they are impulsive, sarcastic, angry at women (or men), and over sensitive. These "fears and defenses" overpower the trait of diplomacy.
Listen to what this student learned about her personality!
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Subject: A small thank you note.
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