Change Your Life:
The Secrets to Making Love Happen!
Chapter 1, Page 5 (Partial excerpt)
Although the personality, as revealed by handwriting, is the most important factor, there are many other factors in picking your mate. You can't overlook such factors in life as attractiveness, finances, location, education, heritage, values, religion, etc. Let's face it, no matter how great her handwriting is, if she is a 600 lb., grotesque, mustache-toting slobbering sloth that doesn't speak English... I'm not dating her! Your standards may be different. Everyone has a profile of what is sexy. A comedian once said, "There are no impotent men, only unattractive women." Although his analogy is chauvinistic, inaccurate, and a bit harsh, it does illustrates one aspect of a healthy relationship. You must have some physical attraction toward your mate. Therefore, keep in mind all the factors that create a compatible mate for yourself, including personality and physical attractiveness.
The reason for looking for similarity is simple: rapport. The more similarities that two people have, the more they will like each other. As humans, we tend to find familiar territory more comfortable. We may venture out for excitement, but we are always more comfortable at home. Would you have tea with the Queen of England dressed in your underwear, without combing your hair or taking a shower? I hope not. The point is the more similar we are to each other, the more we feel we understand one another.
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Have you ever been on a blind date? Imagine the insight you would have had if you looked at her handwriting before you met her. Imagine the embarrassment if you told her everything you know from her writing before seeing her face-to-face, "I see here that you are overly sensitive to criticism, you lie a lot, and you are obviously sexually frustrated!" Actually, I've been that blunt before and it's quite a coup. I don't recommend it. This approach doesn't have a positive, rapport-building effect. If the blind date was the one above, I would just keep those things to myself, compliment her, not believe a word she said, and attempt to solve her sexual frustration problem without calling attention to the fact it is a problem. You can do the same.
I've had many past relationships in various forms. Some were good, some were not so good. I've also interviewed many others and documented their experiences. I've included many of these experiences as prime examples of the principles I am teaching. Hopefully, you will learn from others' past mistakes.
"Experience is not the best teacher. Someone else's experience is the best teacher!" ...Curtis Baggett
One experience I had was with a lively, vivacious, bouncy, and happy, redhead named Marsha. She talked very fast and used her hands to express herself. I talk fast and laugh a lot, therefore rapport was developed through our similar communication style. It wasn't until after our first date that I got the chance to see her handwriting. Uh oh! She had insatiable sex drives (huge y's), low self esteem (low t-bar), hidden anger for men (hook in a d), and a dual personality (variable slant). I would normally have ended it right away, but I had already allowed the physical attraction to affect my emotions. My logic was not in control. That was my first mistake. Don't let your sex drive do your decision-making for you!
I thought it would be wise for me to investigate this girl further. As I listened to the grapevine, her past was just as tumultuous as her handwriting. It turned out that she had already slept with many of my friends and did not have the greatest reputation for stability or self-respect. In this case, the stories I heard about her verified what I saw in her handwriting. In most cases, you won't have access to his or her case history because they may not tell you the truth. Good news: the handwriting will tell you the truth every time.
Now that you know who you are and what kind of personality you want in your next mate, it is time to prepare yourself to be successful in your next love affair. The next chapter prepares you for that wonderful experience called romance.
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